Lisbon, Portugal
The delay in writing about Portugal is probably a result of
being intimidated by what I know will be a challenging act of finding words to
describe a moment that took 33 years to happen. Although I clearly should have
visited Portugal already, and I once sat with my Dad at an airport gate unable
to get on a standby flight to Lisbon, those regrets quickly faded away when I
saw my Dad and Mom standing behind the security gate at the port in Lisbon. I
was finally in the country where my Dad was born. I grew up with my Dad only
speaking Portuguese to my grandparents, living in a Portuguese town in
Massachusetts, with their home perpetually smelling like Portuguese food, with
stories and pictures from Alcobaca, with Benfica soccer games on in the
background, and a strong sense of Portuguese culture. My 3 days in Lisbon were in
a way, very much like going home, but for the first time. Although I already
had a strong sense of what Portugal was like, to finally be there, to see the
blue and white tiles, to smell the cooked fish, to see people on the streets that
looked like everyone on my Dad’s side of the family, to hear the Portuguese
language everywhere I went, to see the coastline, narrow alleys, red roof
tiles, red wine, fishing villages, ceramic roosters, fado, and pasteis de nata,
truly connected me to the Portuguese family I grew up in. We explored Lisbon on
the first day, first stopping at St. George’s Castle, which provided an amazing
view of the city. After overlooking the tiled roofs of the city we walked down
through the charming old streets of Alfama. Before having bacalhau for lunch in
the center of Lisbon, we went into a church which was burned and never fully
restored, creating an eerie and magical interior. We continued to walk around
the city and then went to Belem, where we viewed the Jeronimos Monastery and the
Monument to the Discoveries. We also had quite possibly the best pasteis de nata
I’ve ever had at the famous Pasteis de BelĂ©m. The next stop was our Cascais
hotel, a converted house where an inviting and friendly owner showed us around.
All of the hotels my Dad found were charming and unique. Afterwards, we went
along the Boca do Inferno to view the sunset, which was stunning. We watched
the waves crash up against the cliffs, bathed in the setting sun. For dinner, we
went to a delicious Indian restaurant in Cascais, followed by a walk around the
main streets of the city. The next day we went to Fatima, walked around the
extensive grounds, went to a reconciliation center, saw where the three
children were buried in the church, lit a few candles, and offered up some
prayers. We then stopped at the Monasterio de Batalha, a stunning monastery
with an interior as grand as the exterior. Before arriving in Alcobaca to visit
family we checked into another beautiful hotel overlooking Nazare. We drove through
the narrow streets never designed for cars and drove along the beach, where
women were selling fish that decorated the beach with endless rows of fish
drying out in the sun. In Alcobaca we went into the Monasterio de Alcobaca
before meeting up with my cousins who have an amazing apartment overlooking the
main square of Alcobaca in front of the monastery. We had coffee and pastries
before walking around, where I saw the apartment my grandparents had for many
years that is still in the family. Being in Portugal with my Dad completely
transformed the experience and I can’t imagine visiting without him there. He
showed me the streets my grandparents walked, their daily routines, where they
walked for bread, and the life they lived. We drove to where my grandfather
grew up, the open land now a hill overlooking Alcobaca, and the nearby houses
of other Paulo family members, where they all lived before moving to the United
States. A little further down the street we visited more cousins and ate grapes
and figs from their garden as the sun set, in what felt like a true Portuguese
moment. From their house I was also able to see exactly where my Dad was born,
a little further down the hill in a nearby house. Although I had already met
most of these cousins I was able to meet a family member for the first time
when we visited my great aunt on my grandmother’s side. She quickly recalled
her phone conversations with my grandmother and how I was often talked about.
The day was without a doubt bittersweet, knowing my grandparents are no longer
alive. I wish I could have been with them in Portugal, but I felt their
presence and I felt even more deeply connected to them by traveling to their
homeland and seeing the life they lived both before I was born and after I was
born when they would come back to visit. We ended the night with an authentic Portuguese meal in Alcobaca. Before leaving Nazare the next morning we overlooked
the town from the top of the cliffs in the area called Sitio, which offered an
amazing view of the ocean and Nazare. My Dad was also able to point out the
land and windmill he once owned on the hills on the other side of Nazare. On
our way back to Lisbon we stopped in Obidos, a medieval fortified city that offered narrow streets, castle walls, pousadas, and lots of ginja. We ended the day back in
Lisbon, exploring some of the streets we didn't wander through on the first
day, through Barrio Alto, Chiado, and another part of Alfama, where we had delicious Portuguese food and wine to end the trip. Waving goodbye to my Mom and Dad back at the
ship was not easy. Our brief time in Portugal was filled not just with
beautiful sights, but more importantly, with family history and lasting memories. I will always
remember my first time in Portugal, and although I clearly would have liked to
have had two open seats on that flight to Portugal many years ago, visiting
Portugal during a Semester at Sea voyage around the world was incredibly
unique, and allowed the stop in Lisbon to be yet another new experience for me
among endless new experiences. Lastly, having my parents meet me in Lisbon provided an even more meaningful
layer to one of the best ports of this voyage. My Dad waited a long
time to show me around the country where he was born, and I waited a long time
to finally connect to a huge part of who I am, but what a blessing it was to
finally be together in Portugal. I’m ready to move to Lisbon!
You're not gods 'cause for one thing... God ain't got no big head like Elmer Fudd.
ReplyDeleteSounds like a great--and sight-filled--stop in Lisbon!
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